Farm4Profit Podcast

The Business of Fatherhood w/ Ben Killoy

Episode Summary

Ben Killoy has been helping dads break the cycle and create a lasting feeling of change for the last 6 years. He helps them grow through generational trauma by redefining what it means to be alive. He is a certified dad and life coach. Ben grew up on a farm in Southern Wisconsin, right after high school he joined the marine corps, and then fought the hardest battle of his life which we will learn about today.

Episode Notes

The Business of Fatherhood

Introduction John Deere Pre-Roll

Around the room solo introduction
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Topic for the day – How can becoming a better dad….or parent in general affect the profitability of your farm

Ask the listeners to think…..

What was the relationship like with your parents like?
What’s the first word that comes to mind to describe the relationship with your dad?
Is this the same word you want your kids to use?
Why or why not?

Welcome Ben…….. jump right into the battle that he fought and won!

Agriculture is a unique profession for this conversation because a lot of our listeners currently work with, have worked with, or will be working with their parents or their kids. Some, as we have talked about before, may not get a chance to grow up professionally until they are near retirement. Others that are listening might be the people who aren’t letting their children grow up. How does this effect the individual’s ability to be a great role model?

Why are we talking today about the “Business of Fatherhood”

Why would we take an entire episode to discuss this topic?
How does this relate to the profitability of our listeners farms or businesses?
How does this contribute to the success of my life?

Important Items to Consider:

Knowing where you want to go, what you want to be
But you must know where we are first
Call your shot, what do you want your legacy to be?
Knowing you don’t have to go on this journey alone

What are some big first hurdles when considering the process of possibly becoming a better dad?

How can I lead a child through life if I don’t even know where I am going/doing?
How do I teach a child to be the things that I am not, or am not good at?
What do I need to do to raise a girl….treat them the same or different?

What in the culture today has made it more of a challenge to be a great dad?

Most dads have been told how to make a living, but are rarely taught how to live.
How do we feel “ok’ about taking time off of work?
How do we prioritize time with family, with our kids?
Work life balance gets discussed a lot, is balanced really mean 50/50?
High performing dads are a “thing”
Are some people busy on purpose?
What does it mean to be busy?
People can magically find time for things they want to do….. How do we make it to where we want to be with our kids/family?
Can a dad be good in their career and be a good dad?

What if our listener isn’t a dad?

How can dad advice translate to everyday life?
How could using this conversation today help make you better suited to find a mate?
What if I am a female listening to this? How does this apply to me?
Can our listeners be a fatherly figure to someone who isn’t their blood child?

What does it mean to come home?

Are we looking for home in the wrong places?
What is “home”? What does that mean?
You can’t find or build what you don’t first have for yourself……..

How does trauma play into this process?

First, what is trauma?
Do we all have trauma?
Is trauma always dark?

What else do we need to cover today?

How do we wrap up our message today with a bow on it?

Blog titles as examples:

Breaking the cycle
Kids don’t need us to be perfect
Are you home yet?
Stop being a spectator
Life Happens for us, not to us
What is your relationship with love?
Is your dad proud of you?

What does success look like for you?

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